Comments on: How Do You Deal With the Negative Comments? http://jeubfamily.com/2009/12/31/how-do-you-deal-with-the-negative-comments/ Family, Children, Love, Jesus Tue, 22 May 2012 00:44:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Chris Jeub http://jeubfamily.com/2009/12/31/how-do-you-deal-with-the-negative-comments/#comment-6577 Chris Jeub Mon, 05 Dec 2011 04:01:00 +0000 http://jeubfamily.com/?p=1363#comment-6577 This is an all-too-common marital strife. Wendy will be posting on this soon, it takes a bit of thought.  Real quick answer: You and your husband need to be in agreement on this one. Nothing wrong with sharing your heart's desire with him, but it has to be a decision the both of you make together. This is an all-too-common marital strife. Wendy will be posting on this soon, it takes a bit of thought. 

Real quick answer: You and your husband need to be in agreement on this one. Nothing wrong with sharing your heart’s desire with him, but it has to be a decision the both of you make together.

]]> By: Rae http://jeubfamily.com/2009/12/31/how-do-you-deal-with-the-negative-comments/#comment-6575 Rae Mon, 05 Dec 2011 03:04:00 +0000 http://jeubfamily.com/?p=1363#comment-6575 I feel lead to give our family planning over to God but my husband doesn't. He wants to be done with three. Both sets of parents want us to be done with three. What should I do? I feel lead to give our family planning over to God but my husband doesn’t. He wants to be done with three. Both sets of parents want us to be done with three. What should I do?

]]> By: Katy http://jeubfamily.com/2009/12/31/how-do-you-deal-with-the-negative-comments/#comment-4402 Katy Wed, 26 Jan 2011 18:20:30 +0000 http://jeubfamily.com/?p=1363#comment-4402 So are your parents and in-laws supportive of your family? Have they always been? I can see letting strangers' comments roll off your back but hearing it from your parents is a different matter, imo. We just had our 4th (1 mo) and my dad offered to pay us to have a vasectomy. Every time we tell them we are pg, they try to punish us in one way or another and tell us how horrible it is and are we done yet, etc., etc. My dh just says we need to space ourselves from them but it's hard for me b/c I have always been so close to my mom and they live so near...anyone btdt? We know we are doing what God wants us to do and it saddens me that the only thing that makes me hesitate to not want another are the horrible comments of my father... So are your parents and in-laws supportive of your family? Have they always been? I can see letting strangers’ comments roll off your back but hearing it from your parents is a different matter, imo. We just had our 4th (1 mo) and my dad offered to pay us to have a vasectomy. Every time we tell them we are pg, they try to punish us in one way or another and tell us how horrible it is and are we done yet, etc., etc. My dh just says we need to space ourselves from them but it’s hard for me b/c I have always been so close to my mom and they live so near…anyone btdt? We know we are doing what God wants us to do and it saddens me that the only thing that makes me hesitate to not want another are the horrible comments of my father…

]]> By: Peggy http://jeubfamily.com/2009/12/31/how-do-you-deal-with-the-negative-comments/#comment-2826 Peggy Thu, 16 Dec 2010 19:31:34 +0000 http://jeubfamily.com/?p=1363#comment-2826 My question is how do you deal with negativity from family members? I'm currently due with my first (my husband's second) and my mom has already told me "You better not get pregnant again right away" and that "I don't want to see you broke just because you want kids" I wasn't sure how to reply, so I didn't. I just know I'm in for a future of lots of harsh criticism from my own mother because we are willing to welcome as many children as God sees fit. She is very money-oriented and would absolutely not agree with having "more children than I can afford" Do you guys ever get negative comments from close family members? How do you deal with it? It's hard to ignore someone who you talk to several times a week. My question is how do you deal with negativity from family members? I’m currently due with my first (my husband’s second) and my mom has already told me “You better not get pregnant again right away” and that “I don’t want to see you broke just because you want kids” I wasn’t sure how to reply, so I didn’t. I just know I’m in for a future of lots of harsh criticism from my own mother because we are willing to welcome as many children as God sees fit. She is very money-oriented and would absolutely not agree with having “more children than I can afford” Do you guys ever get negative comments from close family members? How do you deal with it? It’s hard to ignore someone who you talk to several times a week.

]]> By: Tammie http://jeubfamily.com/2009/12/31/how-do-you-deal-with-the-negative-comments/#comment-2825 Tammie Mon, 13 Dec 2010 21:10:30 +0000 http://jeubfamily.com/?p=1363#comment-2825 It took me a VERY long time in general to just get over what people would say to me, this was before we even started a family, while I was growing up. I guess I am overly sensitive and take everything to heart .. I still do let some of it bother me at times, to be honest, but I have grown in the fact that now I do not let it bother me as much as it used to. Now most of the time I just sit back and laugh at whoever said what to me. I always suspect that God had me go through the trials I did when I was younger to make me stronger. Who knows what I will face as the years come .. but God already knew. It took me a VERY long time in general to just get over what people would say to me, this was before we even started a family, while I was growing up. I guess I am overly sensitive and take everything to heart .. I still do let some of it bother me at times, to be honest, but I have grown in the fact that now I do not let it bother me as much as it used to. Now most of the time I just sit back and laugh at whoever said what to me.

I always suspect that God had me go through the trials I did when I was younger to make me stronger. Who knows what I will face as the years come .. but God already knew.

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]]> By: Angela Beltan http://jeubfamily.com/2009/12/31/how-do-you-deal-with-the-negative-comments/#comment-2823 Angela Beltan Thu, 14 Jan 2010 19:37:00 +0000 http://jeubfamily.com/?p=1363#comment-2823 I have seven wonderful children. My question always is which one of my children shoud I not have had. I can honestly say my life is fuller with them in it. Even if thier are days I can picture God laughting at me. I have seven wonderful children. My question always is which one of my children shoud I not have had. I can honestly say my life is fuller with them in it. Even if thier are days I can picture God laughting at me.

]]> By: lorrie http://jeubfamily.com/2009/12/31/how-do-you-deal-with-the-negative-comments/#comment-2822 lorrie Mon, 11 Jan 2010 03:38:13 +0000 http://jeubfamily.com/?p=1363#comment-2822 i was very excited to see the show,I called my mother the next day and said i found people like me . my husband and i have6 sons and he has 2 other children from before we met!most people dont understand, it was so wonderful to find out about faMILIES LIKE YOURS! i was very excited to see the show,I called my mother the next day and said i found people like me . my husband and i have6 sons and he has 2 other children from before we met!most people dont understand, it was so wonderful to find out about faMILIES LIKE YOURS!

]]> By: Deanna http://jeubfamily.com/2009/12/31/how-do-you-deal-with-the-negative-comments/#comment-2821 Deanna Thu, 07 Jan 2010 17:08:14 +0000 http://jeubfamily.com/?p=1363#comment-2821 What I find interesting is that my husband and I have never complained about the number we have, or talked about it like it is a heavy burden. Then, we get a reply like.."oh, you must be tired" or "you sure have your hands full"..with a concerned look. Sure we get tired, so do parents with one child. My husband loves to say, "we would rather have our hands full than empty". We don't say that to say that our life is better than a couple that isn't able to have children, just letting folks know that it doesn't bother us to have our 8. Our children are not a surprise to us, they are blessings. Each one with different needs, and opportunities to minister to. Lord bless you all and strengthen you daily!!!! What I find interesting is that my husband and I have never complained about the number we have, or talked about it like it is a heavy burden. Then, we get a reply like..”oh, you must be tired” or “you sure have your hands full”..with a concerned look. Sure we get tired, so do parents with one child. My husband loves to say, “we would rather have our hands full than empty”. We don’t say that to say that our life is better than a couple that isn’t able to have children, just letting folks know that it doesn’t bother us to have our 8. Our children are not a surprise to us, they are blessings. Each one with different needs, and opportunities to minister to. Lord bless you all and strengthen you daily!!!!

]]> By: Gaylene http://jeubfamily.com/2009/12/31/how-do-you-deal-with-the-negative-comments/#comment-2820 Gaylene Sun, 03 Jan 2010 19:47:53 +0000 http://jeubfamily.com/?p=1363#comment-2820 Excellent reply to a question that I get frequently and we only have 3 girls! I pray daily that God will bless us with more. Your family is such an encouragement to us and we pray for your family often. Excellent reply to a question that I get frequently and we only have 3 girls! I pray daily that God will bless us with more. Your family is such an encouragement to us and we pray for your family often.

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